I like to listen. I have learned a great deal from listening carefully. Most people never listen.
Have you found yourself focusing on what to say next instead of just being in the moment? Don’t stress over finding the perfect words: just relax, listen to her, and the conversation will come much easier.
Never mistake motion for action.
Going out with friends is a great first step to meet new people. However, you have to be sure you’re making the most of your time. It’s good that you socialize with your friends but you should also actively seek out new people to talk to. It’s easy to feel like you’re accomplishing something when you’re not actually taking any risks. To make a significant change in your life, you have to constantly push yourself. Everyone gets nervous, but those who improve their social skills challenge themselves and expand their comfort zone.
The shortest answer is doing the thing.
Nervous to approach a cute girl, say something flirtatious, or even ask for her number? I spent a lot of time trying to think of the best ways to get over my fears. In the end, the only thing that really works is to accept those butterflies and do it anyway. Once you get it out of the way the first time, you’ve proven to yourself that you can do it. Every time after that becomes less and less difficult.
We are all apprentices in a craft where no one ever becomes a master.
No one can be socially perfect all the time, it’s impossible. You have to accept that not everyone is going to like you. You’re going to slip up, make mistakes, and from them – that’s the beauty of it. Be prepared to constantly learn new things and evolve according to the situation. Don’t limit yourself by thinking you have nothing left to aspire to, your journey will always continue.